Archive for October, 2010

The weekend is here – Are you working?

Just curious – I am going to be working the majority of the weekend and sometimes it feels like it never stops.  But I have to see the bigger picture of things.  I have to see the end-game.  I keep telling myself that I do.

But why are so many people willing to “say” they want to do the extra work necessary to pull themselves up by their bootstraps and move ahead for themselves and their families or whatever it is that is important to them, but unwilling to actually do the work?  Have I written on this before?  I feel like it’s something that just grinds me over and over.  It’s not like it is only the younger generation or the Gen Y or the Gen X or even the baby boomer generation.  Are people tired or are they less motivated today than before?

Yesterday I read in Penelope Trunk‘s blog about her farmer and how he views things today – she writes, “I asked the farmer how he gets the cows to go to the corral. He says he used to try to force them. And it was always frustrating because they didn’t want to go. He was always fighting against them.  Now he tells himself he has an infinite amount of time. He tells himself it doesn’t matter when he gets them in the corral as long as he’s making progress. Sometimes he loses one or two cows as he’s going, but he knows they’ll come later if he gets the rest of them. And sometimes, if a cow isn’t coming with the rest, he tries to get her to go the opposite direction, away from the herd, and it confuses her so much that she follows the herd.  The farmer tells me that he stays calm and tells himself he just needs to be making progress.”

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I think I would like her farmer…But, maybe I need to just learn from what she has shared about him in this post.  “How to know if you’re making progress”.  I don’t very often refer people to a Penelope Trunk blog because, for me, she goes a little over the top, but I still find myself reading it and finding things to use in everyday ways.

I want people to be successful and I want to help them – yes, I do believe in “Pay It Forward“.  I am willing to work for others to be successful – we are in this together; or is that what we’ve forgotten?  There are alternative ways to be successful and we all measure success with different metrics.

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So, me & Penelope’s farmer are going to just keep doing what we do and I’m going to keep putting one foot in front of the other and know that as long as I keep moving forward I’m making progress.  Then the other things will all come along – eventually.

My Old Man…That’s what he calls himself…

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That is not what I call him. I call him my friend, my confidant, my lover, my help-mate, my soul-mate, and he has now been gone for almost 3 weeks hunting in the mountains with several other people from our church. Big annual deer & elk hunt…spread across half the state of Arizona.

I miss him…so much…and him being gone always reminds me of how much he means to me. I think it’s sad that he has to be gone from my life for me to remember how much I love him…It shouldn’t be that way at all. He will tell me that I have hundreds of brothers & sisters at the church to encourage me and keep me going when the way looks hard…and as much as I love them and they love me –  they’re still not him.

He’s coming home this weekend (God-willing) and I am picking up 2 of my 4 grandbabies to come stay with me until he gets home.  They miss him horribly when he’s gone – He’s the Principal & 5th-8th grade teacher at the private school at Pleasantview and so 3 of my grandbabies see him 5-6 times a week.  Heck – they see him more than I do…

But, tonight after work I am heading over to Pleasantview and hopefully have dinner with my babies and hug them and love them and tell them how much I miss them when I don’t see them.  To let them know too that Papa will be home in just a few more days and he’ll be all dirty and stinky when he walks in.  But that we’ll hold our noses and throw our arms around him and hug him and kiss him like he was the prodigal son coming home.

Then we will DEMAND he take a minimum of a 1 hour shower and come out and kiss us and hug us all over again!!!

Rising to the Challenge

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This weekend I had the distinct pleasure of caring for 2 of my grandbabies. Isaiah is 4 and Leilani is 2 – they’re brother & sister and I must confess I was afraid of watching 2 at the same time alone. Everyone’s up hunting in the mountains so it was just me and them. It was a complete ball…not bragging, because I know it has to do with their parents and how they are loved and being raised, but they were so good.

We called it a “Granny Weekend” (that’s me – Granny) and we did silly things like coloring and cooking and yes – we snuck to McDonald’s last night for dinner (SHHHH) but they were a total delight and I know now that I can do it.  They also helped me at the Laveen, AZ Health Fair (Thanks to Bernadette Gasior of the Gourmet Bunny Jewelry and Laveen Fitness Boot Camp) on Saturday until the heat got to much for them…I don’t know what I was afraid of – that they’d be hyperactive – or unable to be calm with a Granny that tends not to be!  They didn’t even cry one time and at 4 & 2 it’s kind of expected…and Isaiah takes very good care of his little sister.

So, I figure if I can do that &  have fun & survive…I can do anything!  So, that’s what I am going to do – Not just survive, but thrive.  There is no reason why with all the gifts God has given me that I can’t share those gifts with everyone I meet.

My company, Distinct Inspirations, is my own home-based business as a Marketing Executive for Melaleuca.  I’m so honored to be a part of this organization and want to share with anyone who will listen the benefits of having better, safer, non-toxic products in their homes & lives.  This isn’t a plug for my own company, but it is definitely a comment of  my dedication to show anyone, anywhere, anytime, how they can be a part of the “green movement” with a company that has been “green” for more than 25 years…long before “green” was cool!  I hope if you’re reading this that you’ll take the time to give me a shout and let me show you how it can work for you and your family and household!

My Oh My Oh My – Is it time yet?

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Time is not on our side – we have to live every minute of every day in a state of urgency – Why? – because we have so much to say and so much to do before our “time” is up…I have just started my website… to bring the importance of having safe, non-toxic products in every room of our homes and lives!

In Tristan Lee’s posting in Ezine, “People don’t value time these days, because, well, it’s not money. It’s not something that you can touch or hold in your hands. You can’t really see time. You can see time passing by on a clock… but that’s not too exciting is it? Although passing time isn’t that big of a concern to most people, time in fact is one of the most precious things we as human beings have.”

We have to take care of our children, grandchildren and yes, even the planet! – Regardless of what you have heard or believe – there are ways for us to care for all of these things…that are cost-effective and easy to bring in to your homes.  We run and run and try to get everything done in a day and we don’t even realize how valuable our time is.  What is the value of your time?

A Chinese proverb says, “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago.  The second best time is now.”  We have such a responsibility to care for what God has given us…it is all so precious – including the very next breath we take.  If you have something that is better for your family, your home, yourself…do you want to know about it?  What motivates you?  What in your life do you love, care for, would lay down your life for?

Your time is invaluable!  You must know this and accept it!  Your family & friends will never be able to gain back time with you that is already passed – but there is a better way to take time and spend it with your family.  There are better ways and I hope that you will be in contact – @ and let me show you how!  Every minute of every day has a $ assigned to it…and I am really curious – how much is your time worth?

Building Trust

In Christopher Avery’s Blog from 9/20/10 – he talks about How You Build Trust — in Business and in Relationships…Team members must have confidence in one another if the team is to be successful. Making and keeping small agreements is how to begin building trust, because if you don’t keep small agreements, you won’t get the chance to make large agreements.

Two rules about agreements:

1. Never make an agreement you don’t fully intend to keep (no matter how small).

2. Clean up all broken agreements at the first opportunity.

This obviously does not just apply to the business world but also can be positively applied to personal relationships with family members and friends.

I have failed at this myself numerous times and always try & strive to do better & more…but I know how critical it is to making and keeping personal & professional relationships.  We count on one another to do what we say – you tell me you’re going to do something and I expect that you will follow through on it. 

I expect the same level of commitment from myself, but you know how hard it is to keep up with all the “I am going to do’s” that we put in our little brains every day?  100’s if not 1000’s – and why? – Because we all want something better than what we have right now – we’re not satisfied with what our lives have become – we want and want and it is all for naught, because in the end – what have we got? – When the soul leaves the body and the body returns to the dust of the earth? – We have lived our lives in 1 of 2 states – a state of grace or a state of legalistic judging.

I am glad it doesn’t go to a vote, but I want, desire, live for a state of grace!  And in that, I want to keep commitments I make so that even in the small things…I can be trusted to fulfill the requirements necessary that people can trust that I’ll do what I say I’ll do.  But if I don’t put requirements on people then – together we can grow –

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The Apostle Paul wrote “that, that I would do – I don’t, and that, that I would not do – that I do” – Who shall deliver me from the flesh of sin – I thank God through Jesus Christ” – that In Him alone is my Rock, – my Savior,  – my Lover, – my Best Friend.  I’m not sure how or why this posting took this turn, but if the Apostle Paul can write that it is of little consequence if another judges me – I don’t even presume to judge myself…Because He was judged for us…

I don’t think when I originally read the excerpt from Christopher Avery’s blog that mine would take this turn, but it did…and I’m glad it did – I love writing about my Lord and I love sharing Him with others.  I don’t do it enough…

Commitment, grace, love, forgiveness – That’s the way to fulfill requirements and commitments…He committed to love me and I’m commited to loving you…How much fun to live life that way!

Easter Lily

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